Thank you very much for your book, it is brilliant! If only I had had it ten years ago life would have been so much easier.

Joan Clark,

I am excited by this book which provides a much needed practical guide to caregiving. There are two things that I believe stand out.

The first is that it is written by someone with first-hand experience of the topic of which they speak and the second is that it illustrates the areas that it covers with real life experiences of others who have trodden this path. In my experience Care-givers appreciate knowing that they are not alone in the responses that they have to this role while at the same time having acknowledged that there is no right way to go through this process other than what feels right for them.

I believe that this book will be welcomed by caregivers and professionals alike and I expect that it will provide some helpful signposts for those who find themselves facing these challenges.

Ann Smart, Counsellor

Your book is simply wonderful. Such thought, wisdom, practicality, experience and humour... I was moved by what read.

I think every doctor should read this book! And such a wonderful guide for carers facing these difficult and heart breaking situations.Thank you for the passion and energy and very hard work that must have gone into creating such a beautiful book.

Dr Nia Ellis, Palliative Care Specialist

I read your book from cover to cover. I was blown away. It is gently written with so much at every level from the practical to the spiritual. It is for everyone whilst still containing a very personal story. I loved Minna's drawings too.

It is a tour de force for so many. I know it will be hugely well received.

Baroness Rennie Fritchie DBE,

Ros Capper is one of those people who thinks of things you wish you had; the blindingly obvious, once she’s made it obvious. So my bet is, when you read “The Accidental Carer” you will say, “oh yeah, that makes perfect sense; why didn’t I think of it?”  Well, you maybe didn’t think of it because you are caught up in something you didn’t expect.

You are an accidental carer because your wife, husband, partner, friend received a shocking diagnosis delivering an uncertain future. In my case it was a 14 year journey.

Palliative home care is a journey in stages and Ros Capper’s guide helps you plan for the stages. I like the analogy she uses of the safety briefing before you fly which advises, in the event of an emergency a mask will fall down.

Put yours on first before you help. In other words, care for yourself first. You have to be match fit.

This is not a one size fits all guide, but offers tips and suggestions on numerous practical fronts. When and why you should ensure you have power of attorney for care and property. Where to go to get financial help. And really basic but critical stuff, like the importance of keeping notes and documents in one place. It helps you pay attention to the little things that matter.

The guide is confronting in a constructive way about tough topics like Guilt. Carer guilt is normal. The guilt that comes from you drawing the long straw and the person you are caring for getting the short one. And the moment you face up to the reality that you and the ill person have different futures.

Hard stuff, that in the end not only makes it easier, but emotionally and practically fulfilling. Ros Capper's welcome guide helps you plan along the way and deal with uncertainty. The wonder is it has taken so long for someone to spot the need and fill the gap so well.

Al Morrison,

This book is a real treasure. It is practical, written with a wonderful light-heartedness in succinct short chapters and gives practical examples.

This truly is a manual for caregiving coming from a place of experience, not a place of theory I love four year old Minnas’ gorgeous illustrations in the book, created from her "being a grand-daughter" experience

Liese Groot-Alberts, Grief therapist and international palliative care educator